Meeting money – from the heart

March 12, 2011

Do you ever feel that money is attached to shame, fear, or guilt? That seems to be the main message that many of our so-called “money gurus” espouse – that you would have so much more money – if only you weren’t so stupid about how you manage it!

I watched about 60 seconds of a well-known “money guru” last night, giving a “class”, and wow, her anger and shaming behavior were so intense that I just did not want to watch any longer. Click! Ah, the wondrous power of that little device. Life, for me, is way too short to spend listening to someone else’s anger, even if that anger is meant to motivate me.

It was not that her words and message weren’t right. What she was saying was true. It’s absolutely true – that spending beyond your means will get you in deep doo doo (duh!). But for me, the emotions were all wrong. I’m sorry, but I don’t buy into the concept that shame and guilt are what holds our society together. To me, it is peace, acceptance, and understanding. Shame is the opposite of these.

My goal is to meet money from the heart. For that is where our truth lies.

I am on a journey to meet and explore money, my attitudes about money, my truth about money, and how money has manifested in my life.

A money changer device

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Shame won’t cure addiction, and I don’t think it is effective at curing money woes – if you have them. It probably does have some useful purpose, and perhaps I will discover that purpose on my journey.

If this resonates with you, let me know. I’d love to hear your own thoughts about how you manage your relationship with money.

How’s it going?

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John Gehrke April 18, 2011 at 1:50 pm

I have a conflicted view of money. I currently have very little and try to find solace and acceptance and humility in this condition. I try to teach my family money does not equate with happiness, although in our materialistic capitalistic society especially if we subject ourselves to ‘mainstream’ advertising we surely will always want more. I have been unemployed for too long and used to experience a much more comfortable middle class existence. I know there are many worse off than me, and I can be grateful with very little, although I am not opposed to having more money and I am confident my family would prefer much more. I have a college degree and years of professional experience, and I am approaching the sad desperate point of trying for absolutely any job that likely would not support a family. I imagine whether I could be ‘happy’ as homeless or without family – I hope I do not have to find out.

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Marilyn Walker April 18, 2011 at 2:38 pm

John – You have told a story that many could tell. I am sorry to hear of your unemployment. One thing I have learned is that people can have mixed feelings and fear, sorrow, etc around money even when times are good. But it is often the case when they are more challenging, particularly if you have the responsibility of taking care of others. One thing that I am sure is true is that your family will always be your family. That is one of those things that money most definitely “cannot buy”. Thank you for stopping by and sharing.

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