It’s a big scary world out there – or is it?

June 11, 2011

As babies, most of us had the luxury of being warm and snug in the arms of our parents most of the time. Then we gradually and gently separate, becoming independent beings. But the “gradualness” doesn’t last. The day comes when we get “kicked out of the nest”. (Actually in my case it was more like I ran screaming from the nest, but some of us were born to do things differently. ;-)

My son graduated from High School last Saturday, June 4th. And I got one of the (good!) surprises of my life when he gave a speech that brought the house down with laughter and sincerity. He talked about feeling like that baby bird who must fly, and who doesn’t feel quite ready to do. I’m sharing it with you here because I think that many of you feel that sometimes it’s all just a little too overwhelming, that it’s not what to do but rather – how in the world do we make a choice from all these options?

If you do read the speech here, I think you’ll come away smiling. If you don’t have time to read the whole thing, here’s a part that get everyone laughing:

People often say to me, “What are your goals? What are your plans? What are you going to do? Where are you going to college? What does your career path look like for the next 30+ years? How are you going to support yourself in this depressed economy? Who are you going to marry and how many kids will you have, if you have kids? Will you have kids? Have you thought about going into law? Because I think you’d be a good lawyer, and lawyers make good money and my uncle’s a lawyer and he likes it, and you probably would too. Are you going to stay in Boulder? Why don’t you go to CU, and stay around your friends and family? Well I don’t know if you’ve fully considered all your options and every facet of your life and what it could become. And what about everybody else’s lives and every facet of them?” (You can read the entire speech here.)

Here are a few take home lessons that come from this speech:

  1. Sure, life is uncertain. But don’t use that as an excuse to eat dessert first! Remember that as long as you have faith and a plan, and as long as you are taking action on that faith and that plan, you will move forward.
  2. Uncertainty will not kill you. You are smart enough to avoid those power lines.
  3. Others will love to scare you with uncertainty and potentially bad outcomes.
  4. The problem is not lack of choice. Often the problem is too many apparent choices. A surefire way to not succeed is to avoid making any choice.
  5. Everyone else’s lives are not your problem.

I do remember how big and scary the world looked when I was 18 years old. As I’ve moved forward from there, I’ve seen it shrink. It still puzzles me at times, but it doesn’t frighten me.

Remember that the one thing you have control over are your thoughts, and your thoughts will steer your actions and outcomes.

But really, for all these life lessons that I got from the speech, mostly what I got was lots of enjoyment. And that’s the best part – enjoying my life and my family.

You go,  baby bird of mine! You are ready. You’re an eagle, and you’re going to soar high.

What’s happened in your life recently that you’re grateful for?

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